Monday, March 17, 2014
Dear So & So: Being Enough
Dear So & So,
Our conversation yesterday left me with a lot to think about today. I don't know why I can't shake this feeling of being not good enough lately. All I try to do is to leave others in a better place than I found them. I try to love others to the best of my ability. I always try to make sure others know how thankful I am to have them in my life; never forgetting to tell them or show them just how much I love them.
Because tomorrow really is promised to no one.
I don't plan on going anywhere anytime soon, but if I do, I will always wonder if I was enough. Did I love enough? What did I leave behind? What is my legacy? Did I do enough to make a difference in this world?
Ever since I could remember, I have wanted to be a mom. Somehow, I feel inadequate without a child. Incomplete. Like there's a part of me missing. Deep down I know, I am not honoring who I'm supposed to be.
That is not to say that my sole purpose on this planet is to be a parent; it's not. However, I cannot seem to quiet the desire in my heart that knows there is more to this life than I have been living.
I am not perfect. I have made mistakes. I have wished for do overs. As much as I try to live without them, I do have regrets. There are things that I have wished I said, others that I have wished I had not spoken. And in most cases, I will not get a do over.
Yesterday, I said I was mad at God, but today, after much thought, I know that's not true. What is true is I'm frustrated at life's circumstances. No one promised life was going to be easy, but no one said it would be this hard either. I know I have made it through tougher times, but knowing that does not make this eaiser.
None of this is easy. I am not asking it to be easier. I just want to know that I will make it through this tough time, and I'm not on this journey alone. I want what everyone wants... I want to know that I really do matter and, in the end, that has to be enough.